Valentine’s Day is this Friday.
As of today (Monday morning), I have no plans with anyone special and I’m doing my best to not flip my lid.
Not that I think the world will end if no one asks me on a date for Valentine’s Day, but with all of the recent shenanigans activity you would think SOMEONE would make a move. But, no. Nothing yet.
Let me update you.
Since my last blog, there’s been MUCH going on. With several people.
I’ve spent a tremendous amount of time with Mr. Architect lately, and also saw The Doc.
Both are special men who I have a unique connection with, especially The Doc, for those of you who’ve been reading our 8-month-long journey.
Also, last night a guy I used to date briefly a few years back got together with me and told me that his world stops and time stands still whenever he sees me, and that he’s never wanted to be with anyone other than me and how special and connected he feels with me. “If you’re ready for a relationship, I’m sure you’ll pick me.”
You’re not the one, buddy. We had our moments, but that window has closed. Thanks for pouring your heart out to me, but I can’t help if I know in my heart you’re not the one, and now I’m even MORE frustrated because you’re a nice guy offering me what I want, but I have no feelings for you.
So, hence my frustration because no one seems to be willing to make any REAL moves here. Well, correction – the guys I WANT to make moves, aren’t.
Or my Prince Charming just hasn’t arrived yet and I’m still being taught how to be patient.
Patience, my ass. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
(Ok, that was probably the most ironic statement of all time. So, just kidding.)
So, on Saturday morning, I had logged on to my Plenty Of Fish account.
POF shows you who’s “online” of the guys you’ve been talking to, messaging, or in some cases people you’ve met in real life from POF who still have an active account.
I log in to check my messages and see what’s going on. It’s kinda become as routine as checking emails.
Who do I see “online?”
I’ve now seen him “online” every day for the past two weeks or so and it’s obvious he’s still using the site. In fact, there have been a few times where we’ve both just seen each other, and 20 minutes later are both logged into “Plenty of Fish.” That can’t be good, right?
So I see him logged in on Saturday.
That’s fine. We’re not married, but for some reason this really starts to bother me.
His communication with me lately is still pretty good, we’ve seen each other a lot, we text and email all the time and he’s “serious about this” with me, so it’s always weird to see someone say and do these things yet continue to log back into the dating site that brought you two together in the first place.
I can’t stand it any longer. I actually thought Mr. Architect and I were heading down the path of only being interested in each other (he even has told me that his intuition told him I was “the one” when he first saw my profile online, among other serious conversations we’ve had about what we’re both looking for, etc).
Yeah, so why be online so much?
So I delete my Plenty Of Fish account.
I need a break.
Too much to figure out, lately, and I need answers.
Ok, I don’t need answers, I’d just really like to know what’s going on inside the heads of a few people.
I feel more comfortable with stability here, and guessing what’s going to happen, or waiting to see what’ll develop gets old real fast.
Deleting my POF account helped relieve some of that stress. I’ll no longer have to know if this dude is online talking to plenty of other fish in the sea everytime I log in!
(Side note: I DELETED MY POF ACCOUNT! Did you read that part?! Not sure if you realize, but for me, that’s like the equivalent of a smoker giving up cigarettes. Oh wait. I just made the analogy of dating to quitting an addicting, disgusting disease that makes you smell nasty and could eventually kill you at some point. Hmmm….gulp.)
So there ya have it.
A brief update on the love life.
(Second side note: I did talk to my sister who lives in Nebraska for quite awhile this weekend, too. She’s married and has been off the market for awhile now. She asked why it was so tough to date in LA, and I’ve broken it down to two reasons, but that’s best left for another blog.)
Thanks for reading, my friends.
Love and hearts and roses and stuff…to you all. If I don’t have a Valentine by Friday, I’ll be sure to choose you guys instead, deal? 🙂
5 thoughts on “Frustration, an Ex and the Deleting of my Plenty of Fish Account”
Ah… the “who’s online” feature! Hated it. LOL My friends would agonize for hours over dates that were still logged in. And to make matters MORE complicated, I knew there were times when I closed out of my Match.com account only to have the site show I was still “online.” So, really, how do you know for sure? Either way, it’s frustrating. I don’t blame you for wanting a break. Especially when you feel like you’re in limbo with a few guys already. Maybe some day we will all boycott Valentine’s Day and have the bloody holiday abolished. LOL
Not a bad idea to get rid of Vday all together, kleeellis! Except then the people in relationship wouldn’t have a special holiday to celebrate love. awww. lol
LOL True! And without V-day, and Hallmark cards and boxes of chocolate, how would I know my bf loves me? You’re right– we can’t get rid of Valentines Day. I can’t believe I even suggested it. 😉
I’ll be your valentine!!! 🙂 ❤ LOVE YOU.
Thanks, Becca. Love you, too, girl. xoxo