For the first time in a long time, I’m cutting people off.
When I hear from people who are just getting into the dating scene one of the most common things they tell me is that they’re not sure how they could date more than one person at a time.
Apparently I’ve become a pro at this and over the years of being single have sort of mastered this idea of dating multiple people at once. (But that definitely doesn’t mean that I’m sleeping with multiple people!)
The idea of dating several people at once is to get a clearer idea of who might be a great fit for you or not. You need time and experiences for that.
“Don’t put all your eggs in one basket” kinda thing. And since dating is partly a numbers game, this strategy makes sense.
Well, until you find a really, really good egg that makes you want to switch things up for a minute.
MAJOR SWITCH-UP ALERT!
I’m about to pull something I haven’t done in probably 5 years…
After an amazing weekend spent with Mr. Harvard (of which I shall need more time to process and write about), I had two guys who have known me for years (and who want to date me now) ask to see me.
These are the responses I gave today (I’m in blue):
This guy above met me when I first moved to Los Angeles 9 years ago. He’s a bank executive AND a fitness model with a six-pack of deliciousness, but he’s pretty terrible at picking up the phone and asking me out for real (this back and forth of “when are we meeting up for coffee?” has been going on for weeks). Next!
This one above is actually The Architect! He’s back for more and wants to build me a house and share our lives together. Sadly, Mr. Harvard and I just met and as you can tell by my super rare response to these fine gentlemen above, it ain’t looking good on any new construction anytime soon.
And I’m not the only one who feels this way! Mr. Harvard told me after Date #3 last Friday that he was about to dead the two other people he’d been seeing.
Ummm, excuse me? “Dead?”
Naturally, I asked what that meant. It’s the following:
Based on our immediate connection and the fireworks show and all that for the last month or so, we ended up on the same page pretty quickly.
So here I am “deading” two guys I was about to consider dating again until Mr. Harvard came in and shook s%*# up!
Now, you may be saying to yourself “It’s too early to cut other people off!”
You might be right.
But then again, I might be right, too…!
Guess we’ll see. 🙂